Jesus I’m bad at blogging

So the school year has started and we’ve got all these “welcome back” activities.

I will not make it to these activities. And it’s really fun to tell people why.

I will be going to the most fabulous If anyone wants to hang out there, I want to meet you. If anyone wants to contribute a few lines of chat for my article, please do!

My classmates have challenged me to bring back the most/best/worst/weirdest swag I can possibly get. I can say only this:

Pardon the radio silence, but THINGS HAPPENING

I’ve moved! Like, physically. To a new city. And getting my internet legs back hasn’t been easy. But I’m here, and I have things to tell you.

Here’s a thing: I won a grant! My little geography department has given me a little grant to attend CatalystCon West!

There, I will be stalking every single person with my tape recorder and pen and paper because I want to know how YOU interact with the internet! And dildos! And each other!

My project is still being formed, but essentially, I’m interested in whether members of the greater sex-positive community want to see state oversight of sex toy materials and manufacture. As a geographer, this question is relevant to me in two distinct ways:

1. How would the US government oversee materials manufactured overseas, given the liquid nature of sex toy supply chains?

2. How do sex-positive educators, bloggers, consumers, and business people determine the standards through collective interaction?

3. What are the risks of governance?

Guys, I’m super excited! In addition to the occasional sex toy review, I’ll be discussing the things I have to read for my literature review. I have a terrifying reading list that I’ve scarcely begun to broach, and I love every single thing on it. We’re going from Judith Butler and Foucault to Guatemala looking at body politics to the reaches of Haraway’s Cyborg Manifesto where we’ll meet Cyberfeminism.

After a heinously long list of articles spanning such subjects as “Human-Computer Interaction as sexuality,” “The geography of Youtube and Viagra” and “Dildos as neoliberalism,” I will begin “primary research,” which will incorporate Ducky Doolittle’s Sex With the Lights On and Tristan Taormino’s The Feminist Porn Book.

If there’s anything you think I should read, let me know! This act of masochism is already underway, but I’m never afraid of a challenge! Also, I may morph into Zizek by the time I’m done here.



Wilmington, NC, sex toy shops, attempt 2

So I went to North Carolina. And in North Carolina, I went to 2 sex shops.

First, I went to Adam and Eve. I didn’t realize it was a physical place until seeing a skeevy billboard for it on I-40, at which point I proclaimed my boyfriend’s car the “dildo mobile” and after dropping our stuff at the sketchiest motel I have ever seen, we were on our way.
Adam and Eve (as in was interesting. The first word that comes to mind is “clean.” Unlike their web stock, which contains a disproportionate amount of porous, jelly, rubber, whatever shit, this place had more silicone in terms of vibrators than I was expecting. In terms of harness-friendly dildoes, I was disappointed. Missing a big population chunk there…I guess it’s to be expected of a store called Adam and Eve. Heterosexist, much? I will give them this credit: amazing wall of lube. So much lube. There’s never enough lube.

While travelling to Adam and Eve, we found another store called A Sweeter View. Raunchier. Better glass/metal selection and more harness-friendly stuff, though none of it made of safe shit. No kinky porn, no gay porn. No harnesses. No lube. Guh how do you not sell more than like 2 lubes? How do you stay in business? The fuck?

Both of these stores had some impact play equipment, but it was made by Pipedream and is therefore crap. And even the Wallgreens in Chapel Hill had 3 different silicone lubes. I dunno. Wilmington is cool, but…eh. Ehhh. Eh.